Control Freak? Find Peace With These 3 Steps

imani-clovis-jeans-ripped-sitting-KristenTodayOh boy, there’s a whole lot of sitting around and wondering what will happen next this week. The Moon is void all day on Wednesday and next Monday, which means there’s lots of personal time and quiet time, and maybe when you don’t want that.

The tough aspects of this Capricorn Moon can make you feel powerless. Decisions can be made without your input, and that just sucks.

Well, how can you make the best of the situation?

You can control how you feel with it and how you manage your energy.

First, maintain the heightened sensitivity you built in Last Week’s Considerations “Blindfolded in the Catacombs.” It’ll help you navigate the unknown as power moves continue to be made around closed doors.

Then, run through these 3 steps to move through the part you can’t change — other people and situations. These can take you 5 minutes or an hour. Your choice.

This Week’s Considerations is about finding peace when there’s little or no control over the situation.


Unbearable Silence

You’ve been working hard, trying to do all the right things, and then it gets unbearably silent.

You’re not sure if what you did was actually the right move, or if you even did enough.

You might copy by making yourself busy with things you already did or things that just don’t matter.

Doubt might start to set in, and you worry  it can lead you to a downward spiral that’s hard to get out of even when the day is sunny.

When you begin to feel isolated or that you’re talking only to your screens, I want you to take a moment for yourself.

Check-in with where the stress, anxiety, or tension rests in your body. (Encouraging your breath to slow down while your feet are grounded can help you get a more accurate sense).

Yes, go to that uncomfortable place and sit with it.

Like you would comfort a small child, just listen to this node in your body.

And when you’ve heard it out – without trying to correct it, bring your breath to that spot. Let your breath open it, find acceptance of it.

You’ll probably start to notice its intensity start to lessen.

Fill in the clearing space with even more love and acceptance. Get super woo-woo about it because you deserve it.

Then, let your body react to this newfound recognition. It probably will feel more full and alive.

Enjoy the moment. If you feel called, keep moving through the next two steps below.


Priorities and Service

If you open your inbox, you have a dozen or more things calling for your attention. Some will seem more important than others – a bill payment due notification, a note from a friend coming in town to visit, etc…

All these things can steer you in several directions and make it hard to focus on the important things just because these other ones seem urgent. (I loved it when Brendan Burchard called this “other people’s agendas”).

Just like you’re trying to get someone’s attention, that someone is juggling the same issues.

When Moon is Void, it’s not a good time to try to get some reactions out of people… it often withers away in the ethers as this time is designed for personal time.

Instead of muscling through it, try to find peace with being a part of the many priorities with the people whom you’re trying to get their attention and action. Appreciate what they’re going through.

Go back to basics, like my favorite practice lately – put yourself in a place of service.

Work on your own energetic positioning so you can serve them even better.

I don’t know why it works so literally like this, but for me, I often find doors open for me that I once knocked on after I make peace with serving the best and many interests of those responsible to the opportunities I seek.

And for some people, you might find that when you put yourself in a place of service, you might actually need to do more them. Maybe it’s a thoughtful gift. Maybe it’s a phone call. Maybe it’s a note on beautiful stationery…

When you bring yourself to a place that honors other people’s priorities coupled with a place of genuine service, you become their priority.


Strengthen What You Do Know

As you know, I’m in the middle of promoting my Spiritual Woman’s Guide to Love weekend, and there are so many unknowns when you do a live event. How many people will ultimately be there? Did I buy enough materials and supplies I need? Etc.

Because it’s an online world, and events are always last-minute, it can be a difficult to sit in the unknown and witness unresponsive communication. (Yeah, it’s the worst-case scenario for control freaks).

Yet in the end, the trust has to be in yourself. The value you bring. The intentions you set. Your preparedness for this moment.

And even when there’s little to nothing to show for it yet, all that inner knowing is what gets you through it. Strengthen this, what you do know.

It keeps the faith alive. The faith that there is a connection between you and the universe.

That Spirit brings everything you can handle for right now. And that whatever does happen, beyond our control, it is perfect and preparing you for an even brighter future.

That’s the energy I’m bringing into my weekend event, and because I am, I already see a brighter horizon ahead that builds on all the beautiful work already invested in it. Whatever happens, I know it’s going to be magnificent and beautiful.

Astrological Day Guides: May 29-June 4, 2018

Read these guides as a whole to get a feel for the week’s tone. There’s always some overlap of themes. Then read them as you need them, day-by-day.

Tuesday – It’s easier to see the view of where you’re going. However, a very stuck Mercury (Gemini’s ruler) at the end of Taurus clings onto what you know. Stay rooted in what gives you the outlook you have today. Prepare yourself for any necessary movement of what might need to change to get you to the ultimate destination.
(Sagittarius Full Moon at 10:19am EDT. Mercury enters Gemini).


Wednesday – Excellent day for writing, exploring, and getting your head in the clouds. No interruptions to divert your train of thought. So give yourself the space to adventure inside and out. Not really a day for making important decisions or connections because it’s a void moon.
(Sagittarius Void Moon all day, no aspects).


Thursday – Day can start off with a bang. Anticipate unexpected news, layoffs, or major changes coming from those in authority and leadership positions. A new structure starts to crystallize by the day’s end that makes sense of all the shifts and changes. For those who took advantage of Wednesday’s void moon, this may very well be the results of that work.
(Capricorn Moon trines Uranus and conjoins Saturn).


Friday – Power moves continue to be made behind closed doors. Tune into the senses you built up in Last Week’s considerations to help navigate the unknown and come out in the best light possible. Unstable grounds in a preserved sense of appearances.
(Capricorn Moon sextiles Jupiter and Uranus, opposes Venus and conjoins Pluto. Mercury-Mars trine. Venus-Jupiter trine).


Saturday – You can feel deflated from the lack of coherence and connection during the work week. Frame your state-of-mind to recognize a network of priorities. Your own, your clients, etc… In this web, control dynamics are challenging. You can’t make people act the way you want them to. Try to make space for your own priorities to find a new path to the ones where you want connection. Meaning, let go a little bit and trust the process.
(Void Moon until 6:06pm EST when Moon moves to Aquarius. Venus-Neptune trine).


Sunday – A more aggressive push lights up the circles you know and helps connect them to the right places. A good day to get yourself out there.
(Aquarius Moon conjoins Mars, trines Mercury-Sun and squares Jupiter in the night).


Monday – Today can be a ball of nerves. Self-doubt comes into play – did you make the right decisions? Sometimes you just can’t know. So instead of biting off your nails, try to keep yourself busy and take care of old business. Tidy up, rearrange furniture, throw stuff out, etc… remember void moons are meant to be keep-it-to-yourself times.
(All day void moon in Aquarius).
Photo by Imani Clovis

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